What you can ask for, what it costs, and where the line is

Where the answer is written down

The question "what will they do" has a published answer in almost every room, in one of three places. Performers write these because otherwise they have the same conversation twenty times a night, which makes them unusually honest documents.

1. The bio

   What the room is, rates, schedule, and — most usefully — a stated list of what they do not do. Fifteen seconds to read.

2. The tip menu

   A price list of specific actions with token amounts. Tip the number, the thing happens. No negotiation needed or wanted.

3. The pinned message

   Room rules, current goal, anything time-limited. Usually where a performer puts what they are tired of repeating.

Read those three and you know more about what is possible in that room than any general guide could tell you — including this one, because the answer genuinely is different for every performer. You can open a few rooms and read them without registering or spending anything.

What a menu typically looks like

Contents vary enormously; structure barely does. Prices below are illustrative at roughly $0.10 a token — the actual numbers are set per performer and are always displayed.

A useful thing to know: an unusually high price is often a polite no. Rather than argue about something they would rather not do, many performers price it somewhere nobody will go. Reading a number that high as an invitation to negotiate misreads it completely.

Asking well

Most of getting what you want here is procedural rather than social, which is good news: it can simply be learned.

• Buy from the menu rather than asking. If the thing is listed, tipping the amount is the request. It is faster, unambiguous, and removes any question of whether you asked properly.
• Ask about things that are not listed, once. A single polite question is fine. Silence is an answer. Asking again turns a no into a mute.
• Take anything specific to private. Public chat is shared space and a room full of people did not come to watch you negotiate. A private is where that conversation belongs.
• Never treat the rate as leverage. Paying more does not move a stated limit, and framing it as though it should is the fastest way to end a session early and permanently.
• Time it. Asking for something mid-way through a goal the room is collectively working toward is bad timing, not bad manners. Wait.

Limits, plainly

Worth being unambiguous, because it is the part people skate past. A performer's stated limits are limits. Not an opening position, not a challenge, not something that softens with familiarity or with money.

This is not only an etiquette point. Requesting things outside a performer's stated limits gets you removed, and on most platforms bans are account-wide and permanent rather than room-specific — one bad five minutes ends your access to every room on the site. The rules exist because the platform's own licence depends on them.

There is also a category of request that gets reported rather than ignored: anything involving a minor, anything non-consensual, anything asking a performer to be filmed off-platform. Every legitimate platform has a reporting route for these and acts on it.

What it costs

Staying private

• A username that exists nowhere else. Reused usernames are searchable and are how anonymous accounts get tied to real people.
• A separate email. Breaks the link to your other accounts.
• Prepaid, if you buy tokens. Caps spending and settles the billing descriptor question at once.
• Camera off. Two-way cam is opt-in everywhere legitimate, never required, and never a condition of anything.

Recording or screenshotting a performer breaks the rules of every major platform and is a criminal offence in a growing number of places. Accounts are terminated for it permanently.

Frequently asked questions

What can you actually ask a cam model to do?

Whatever is on their menu, and nothing that is not. Every performer publishes what they do, what they cost and what they will not do — in the bio, in a pinned message, or in a tip menu in the room. That list is the complete answer to this question for that performer, and it is different for every one of them.

How does a tip menu work?

It is a price list. Specific actions with specific token amounts next to them. You tip the listed amount and the listed thing happens, usually within a few seconds. No negotiation, no ambiguity about whether you asked correctly, and no risk of requesting something that was never on offer. It is the cleanest way to spend anything in a public room.

What happens if I ask for something not on the menu?

In most rooms, nothing — it is ignored, which is the polite version of no. Ask repeatedly and you get muted; ask for something the bio has explicitly ruled out and you may be banned outright. On most platforms bans are account-wide rather than room-specific, so it is not a low-stakes thing to test.

Can I request something in a private show that is off the menu?

You can ask, and a private is the right place to ask rather than public chat. What does not change is the answer: a performer’s stated limits are limits, not an opening position. Paying more does not move them, and treating the rate as leverage is the fastest route to being removed mid-session.

Why are some menus so much more expensive than others?

Because pricing reflects what a performer is comfortable doing, how much demand they have, and how long the thing takes. A high price on one item is often a soft no rather than a real offer. A performer who genuinely does not want to do something will usually price it out of reach rather than argue about it.

Do I have to tip to be in the room?

No. Public rooms are free and a large share of everyone present is watching without spending anything. A room that frames tipping as a condition of staying is doing something legitimate platforms do not do.